North Star Mental Fitness Blog

If You Can Drive a Car, You Can Have Satisfying and Sensitive Relationships!

This title may have surprised you.  I hoped that it grabbed your attention. 

Cars and people are alike!  Both run on fuel and have signals when more fuel is needed!

Pain Is a Welcomed Signal

How do you interpret your pain?  Pain can be experienced physically, emotionally, psychologically, interpersonally or financially.

Most people trying to avoid pain.  Pain is perceived to be bad and to be avoided at all cost.  We wish that we could live a pain free life.  That is not realistic.

Pain is like a good friend.  A good friend will tell you when you're doing something wrong and need to make some changes in your life.

Also pain is a signal.  How is pain a signal?

Differences Between Coaching, Therapy & Mental Fitness Training

The Differences Between Therapy, Coaching and Mental Fitness Training

Mental Fitness Training , Coaching and Therapy are really different.   Sometimes it is easier to explain the differences by using an analogy.

If life is like a ball of yarn, therapy helps you unravel the tangles.  Coaching helps you knit a sweater.  Mental fitness training provides the needles for knitting the sweater.

I added the last sentence to the original analogy regarding therapy and coaching.  Where did the original quote come from?

"Disquiet in Men" according to Dave

My disquiet was shared today in an interview with Dave Schoof of The Disquiet In Men.  Dave believes "disquiet" is a man's thing.  Dave's skillful and empathetic interviewing style helped me understand my "disquiet" and what I do and need to do to relieve it.  Tomorrow I will tell you about my "disquiet".

Today I want to tell you about Dave's understanding of the "Disquiet In Men".  He's discovered in his interviewing and coaching men that there is an undercurrent of "disquiet" even in very successful men.  Success does not take away a man's "disquiet".

Dave talks about what women have known for a long time: there's something wrong with men.  The women I know would not be surprised at all by Dave's belief that success does not take away the "disquiet" in men.  The "disquiet" cannot be dulled by alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, sports, work or sports.

Women seem to smell and amazingly sense the "disquiet" in their man.  Dave tells us why.

 

Always Sick At Christmas Is a Signal

Sick at Christmas not only is the manifestation of the life motive "I want you to take care of me" or the life motive "I don't want to take care of me".  In yesterday's blog I wrote about eliminating her physical symptoms at Christmas time by changing her life motive or by applying The Big Choice.

With The North Star Mental Fitness Program there are 15 strategies for reducing, replacing or turning her physical symptoms into happiness and good health.

Today, I want you to consider her physical symptoms and illness as a signal rather than a problem. 

Inconvenient Signals

Signals of emptiness often come at inconvenient times.

Have you ever noticed that your car signals empty at the most inopportune times.  Like when you are late for an appointment or for an important business meeting. 

The urgency of your circumstances does not matter, when your car signals emptiness.  If you want to get to your destination, you only have one choice.

What about inconvenient signals of emptiness in our personal life and relationships?

What Is Emptiness in Humans?

Emptiness is not bad.  Emptiness is normal.  Everyone has times of emptiness and times of fullness.  It is impossible to be full all the time.  There is a cycle in life, flowing from full to empty and empty to full.

The purpose of this blog is to challenge your expectation.  After reading this blog, I hope you will expect times of emptiness in yourself, your life, and significant others. 

Learning to the accept emptiness in yourself and significant others without making critical judgments is important for living a life of happiness and contentment.