North Star Mental Fitness Blog

The Power of Perception

Last night I talked to a couple about their perceptions of each other.  They had been married for many years before she filed for divorce.  Instead of divorcing they want to improve their satisfaction in their marriage.  Talking about their problems and their feelings has not been bringing them closer together.

Last night, I asked them to consider the power of their perceptions.  Since I have known them for a while, I know both of them are very nice people, responsible, committed to each other, but really different.

Yet their dissatisfaction and lack of closeness weighs heavy on both of them.  I shared with them my observations that the problems in their relationship are caused more by their perceptions of each other rather than by the reality of how both of them are.

I ask you as I asked them:  Should your perceptions of your loving relationships be realistic?

Should your perceptions of your relationship with your significant other be consistent with your past interactions and thus realistically based?  What does recent research show?

6 Long-Range Strategies for Coping with Midlife Crisis

From a mental fitness perspective there are six long-range strategies for managing the possibility and sometimes reality of midlife crisis.

Although midlife crisis is not a diagnosis in the DSM-IV, it is a condition experienced by many through the course of their relationship or marriage.

How do you prepare for midlife crisis?

Growing Weeds or I Accept Me

Growing mind or dying mind; it is your choice.  Is your mind taking you forward or backward in your life? 

Is your thinking sentencing you to a life of misery or liberating you for a life of prosperity? 

How you think about the events, people and circumstances in your life determines whether you will live a life of misery or prosperity!

Are you planting weeds or or successful seeds in your mind?