North Star Mental Fitness Blog

Who Owns Your Body?

Diana Andrew from Talking Fitness clarified who owns your body in her post, Exercise Is More Than Physical.  Diana made it very simple and very clear.  I really enjoyed reading what she had to say.  In fact, I wish I would have said what she said.  She wrote:

Your body has one owner; it is not in the business of looking for the approval of others, it is only looking for the approval of you.

From a mental fitness perspective, she is right on target.  Think about it!  You are the owner of your body!  Your body only wants and needs approval from you.  You can approve your body no matter what other people feel or think.

A woman's approval of her body does not have to be dependent on men's approval of her body or meeting contemporary standards for beauty.  Men's approval of their bodies likewise is not contingent on getting approval from women or by becoming super masculine.

What is important for you? Is it important for you to approve or improve your body?  Can you approve your body just the way it is now?  Or do you have to improve your body, before you can approve your body? 

Remember, You Live within Environment Created by Your Choices!

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach

The Mental Wrench

Do you want freedom from your past?  Do you want freedom from the way things are in your life? 

Have you become stuck in in your comfort zone?  Is there too much rigidity and lack of flexibility in your personality and life style?  Have you lost the excitement of living a life motivated by freedom?  Have you fallen into routines motivated by fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, obligation or necessity? 

When you are stuck, you need The Mental Wrench from Dr. Hal's Toolbox for Repairing and Creating Your Life.

Are you stuck in your thinking?  Are you stuck thinking the same worn out thoughts that leave you miserable?

Are you stuck in your feelings?  Do you feel too much sadness, grief, anger, inadequacy, rejection, and aloneness?

Are you stuck in your behavior?  Do you relate with a lack of flexibility, excitement, creativity and energy?

Are you stuck in your relationships and how you relate?  Is there a lack of fun, spontaneity, happiness, exploration and empathy in your relationships? 

Are you stuck in your circumstances?  Are you stuck in your employment or unemployment?  Are you stuck, because of problems such as midlife crisis, divorce, blended families, health issues, family issues, learning problems, substance abuse, domestic violence or addictions?

If you are stuck, find out about The Mental Wrench!

5 Tips to Stop Pre-Adolescent Drug Use

"Pre--teens are experimenting with drugs and alcohol as early as age 11, catching parents by surprise," reported mental health professionals from the The Meninger Clinic.  Because parents don't have the expectation that children have access to drugs before they are adolescents, many parents fail to recognize the signs and symptoms of substance abuse by their children.

Norma Clark, M.D., medical director of the Meninger Adolescent Treatment Program said "the kids we treat have been using for quite some time before their parents figure it out".

"They convince their parents that they are not using, because their parents don't want to believe they are using".  Even doctors often fail to ask about drug use by children.

Self-Parenting Deprivation

Self-parenting provides us with the opportunity to accept and love ourselves as we've always wanted to be loved by our parents.  Self-parenting allows us to heal the hurts from our childhood.

Dr. Alex Yellowlees affectionately challenged people, "so be a good parent to yourself and give yourself permission to be all you truly can be".

Deprivation of self-parenting prevents independent, quality loving.  Deprivation of self-parenting eventually forces people to "mess up".

When there is deprivation of self-parenting, people try to find parental substitutes.