North Star Mental Fitness Blog

Mindsets For Success

What motivates you?  What is your mindset?  Your mindset is important in every aspect of your life.

We have a very depressing economy.  The value of our property is depreciating due to the mortgage fiasco.  Many people are worried about maintaining their employment or have lost their employment.  Financial pressures magnify problems within marriages and families.

Your mindset determines your financial, interpersonal and psychological status in your life!  Today I would like to talk about three different mindsets.

When things go bad in life, many people often exercise the mindset of "not losing".  They seem to have a mindset that says "I don't want to lose".  Although this mindset may be appropriate at some times in our lives, it usually results in people becoming defensive and protective of themselves and their resources.  They try to hold on to what they have rather than increasing what they have.  They try to hold onto who they have been rather than growing and changing.  They are motivated to not lose rather than to win!

The second mindset is a mindset to win.  With this mindset a person is motivated and dedicated to win.  No matter how bad the circumstances are, this person is motivated to win at all costs.  You probably have heard the saying "when the going gets tough, the tough get going"!  With this mindset, people, often times, are obsessed with winning.  They view life as competition and they always have to win.  They seem to not enjoy what they accomplish and who they are.  They are devastated when they cannot win.

The third mindset is a mindset leading to self-actualization and growth.  Problems in living are perceived to be opportunities; opportunities for learning, changing and growing.  Dr. Alan Goldberg put it this way "You must let go of that obsessive need to win or beat others (which is actually limiting you) and instead focus on being the very best that YOU can be. Simply put you must make your goal improvement, NOT winning.

Steve Siebold writes about the differences in mindsets between the middle class and millionaires in his new book, How Rich People Think.   Steve wrote  "It's no mystery why 1% of Americans own 42% of the country's wealth. The good news is the rich are no smarter than the rest of us, they just think differently about money. The secret is to learn their thought processes, habits and philosophies and copy them. It's that simple, and this is what this book is all about."

In your relationships, are you:

1. Trying to not lose?
2. Trying to win?
3. Trying to grow and be yourself?

In your financial life, are you:

1. Trying to not lose?
2. Trying to win?
3. Trying to grow and be yourself?Remember,

Remember, We Live within the Relationship and Finances Created by Our Choices!

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach

Tarkenton Still Scrambling in His Senior Years

Fran Tarkenton is still known as the elite scrambling quarterback.  If he didn't beat his opponent with his passing, he did it with his running.  Now in his senior years,

Get Mentally Fit!

Take Care of You.  Take Control of Your Life.  Take Care of Your Mind.

Practice Mental Fitness.

Life is full of change, risks and challenges.  Mental fitness training will help  you find the strength and confidence to take care of yourself, even during turbulent times.  You can be stronger than your problems.  You can find solutions for any and all of your problems with the North Star Mental Fitness Program.

Are you mentally fit enough to deal with life’s ups and downs?"

At the North Star Mental Fitness Blog we believe everyone can improve their mental fitness.  We can all improve our mental fitness by concentrating and repeating mental exercises. 

If Your Life Is Important to You,

The Time Has Come for You to Add Mental Fitness to Your Life!

Just ask us how!

By practicing mental fitness, you will make a commitment to take care of yourself and you will have the strength to achieve your dreams and goals!

 

Remember, You Live within the Mind, Body and Environment Created by Your Choices!

 

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach

 

Automatic Negative Thoughts are called ANTS by Dr. Amen. 

Unfortunately, most of us never question our thoughts, so we don't know we have ANTS.  We never entertain the idea that our thoughts could be misleading or self-defeating.  Since we never question our thoughts, our Automatic Negative Thoughts even though negative, are completely accepted as the truth. 

Unchallenged Automatic Negative Thoughts determine how we feel, how we behave and how we relate in our relationships.  Unchallenged Automatic Negative Thoughts destroy our confidence and turn potential successes into failures.  Most dreams are destroyed by unchallenged Automatic Negative Thoughts.

Automatic Negative Thoughts are lies!  Our minds lie to us, when we have Automatic Negative Thoughts!  If our Automatic Negative Thoughts are lies, then stop believing them!

What are your automatic negative thoughts?  It is important for you to identify your automatic negative thoughts, because these ANTS can create temporary or permanent discomfort and dysfunction in your life.

Here are some ANTS that you might have:

• I will never be successful.
• I cannot have a loving, caring and lasting relationship.
• I cannot pass any test.
• I will never be able to lose weight.
• I always disappoint myself, parents, spouses and children.  He
• I will never be secure.
• I can never please anyone.
• I will never be healthy again.
• I am too old to do anything.
• I am always discriminated against.
• I am always rejected and demeaned by others.
• I am controlled by others.

These are just a few examples of ANTS.  Identify your ANTS and destroy them!  Replace your ANTS with positive and empowering thoughts.  Practice these thoughts frequently.

Remember, We Live within the Identity and Environment Created by Our Mindsets!

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach

Use CPR To Kill Your Ant's (Automatic Negative Thoughts)

Dr. Daniel Amen believes you could have an ant infestation in your brain!  It sure sounds gross, doesn't it?  Before you call an ant exterminator, let me explain what Dr. Amen means.

MALE RULES

Male rules?  What are male rules? 

I found this article explaining male rules in a local newspaper dedicated to humor.  I found the rules to be humorous.  Then it hit me.  Some of these rules, if not most of the rules, probably are operating in the minds of men and create never-ending pain in relationship with women.

With a smile on my face, I hope you will enjoy MALE RULES, which are quoted as written in The Good Life..

The Power of Acceptance

There is power in acceptance! 

15 TOOLS FOR SUCCESS IN 2010

SUCCESS = TAKING GOOD CARE OF YOU

If you take good care of you in 2010, you will be successful!  The following 15 tools will help you be successful in any situation in 2010.  These 15 tools provide the resources to guide you through 2010.

 

THE 15 MENTAL FITNESS TOOLS FOR SUCCESS IN 2010

The Army Validates Mental Fitness

Brig. Gen. Rhonda Cornum, Director of Comprehensive Soldier Fitness confirmed that the Army has realized the importance of mental fitness.  At www.Army.Mil C. Todd Lopez quoted Gen. Cornum frequently in his article "Soldiers learn to impart mental toughness on others".

Brig. General Cornum compared physical and mental fitness.  "Mental fitness is like physical fitness: lifelong and ongoing".

I have emphasized that with mental fitness training people can be stronger than their problems.  Brig. Gen. Cornum emphasized the purpose of mental fitness training by saying "resiliency, or mental toughness, is part of the Army's larger "Comprehensive Soldier Fitness" program, that aims to ensure Soldiers are as mentally tough as they are physically tough".

Mental Fitness is the result of mental fitness training.  Brig. Gen. Cornum was quoted as saying regarding mental fitness "It is not something that you can do once, any more than you can get physically fit by one trip to the gym. This is not an individual single event. It is a way of looking at your psychological health as important as your physical health." 

What is mental fitness?  It is learning different thinking skills according to Brig. Gen. Cornum.  Mental fitness training makes people stronger and fit by learning powerful thoughts and how to think adaptively and quickly.  For example, in the North Star Mental Fitness Program There are 15 thinking skills that can be learned, applied to solve any problem or make a person mentally stronger and fit. 

Mental fitness training is for the average citizen as well as for the military.  The average citizen as well as military personnel must avoid self-defeating behavior and engage in successful behaviors in difficult circumstances.  Mental fitness training and resiliency training helps people cope with everyday problems and not allow problems to overwhelm us.

"Cornum said resiliency is a way of thinking that allows Soldiers not to fall into self-defeating traps. It takes a developed and resilient mind, she said, to put money problems, relationship issues, health issues, or tragedy on the battlefield into perspective, so a Soldier can continue with the mission and with life.

"Resilience is a way of thinking -- you apply optimistic thinking to a problem," she said. "It is really a difference between, for instance, when you invite somebody for a date and they say no, resilient people think 'their loss -- I'll do better next time.' What they don't think is 'nobody will ever like me. I'm worthless.' That's really what it is. It teaches you to remember that problems are temporary, that they are local." 

Mental fitness has been validated by the Army.  Mental fitness training can help you become stronger than your problems and not allow your problems to deter you from enjoying your life.  I believe that people need mental fitness training to cope with rough economic times as well as the emotionally painful problems in everyday living.

Is it time for you to invest and mental fitness training?

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach

24 Keys for Overcoming Difficult Times

Having the right mindset is extremely important for overcoming difficult times.  When difficult times occur, we can feel devastated, betrayed, angry, depressed, confused and overwhelmed.  These are normal feelings and reactions to difficult times.  Oftentimes, these understandable emotions interfere and can actually prevent us from successfully overcoming difficult times.  We must make certain that are painful emotions don't neutralize our ability to set successful goals.

Learning to think for success and overcome painful emotions is necessary for overcoming difficult times.  In this post I would like to have you consider 24 keys for overcoming difficult times.

The first nine keys were written by Alvin Soon and were entitled 9 Keys For Overcoming Difficult Times.  The next 15 keys were written by me and are the major systematic, thought processes for success in my North Star Mental Fitness Program.

I urge you to read both of these posts by clicking on the above links.  If you find one or two ideas that can motivation for overcoming difficult times, your time to check out these links will be well worthwhile.

If you like more information regarding The North Star Mental Fitness Program or coaching for overcoming adversity, please e-mail me at drhal@northstarmentalfitnessblog.com.

 

Having the right mindset is extremely important for overcoming difficult times.  When difficult times occur, we can feel devastated, betrayed, angry, depressed, confused and overwhelmed.  These are normal feelings and reactions to difficult times.  Oftentimes, these understandable emotions interfere and can actually prevent us from successfully overcoming difficult times.  We must make certain that are painful emotions don't neutralize our ability to set successful goals.

Learning to think for success and overcome painful emotions is necessary for overcoming difficult times.  In this post I would like to have you consider 24 keys for overcoming difficult times.

The first nine keys were written by Alvin Soon and were entitled 9 Keys For Overcoming Difficult Times.  The next 15 keys were written by me and are the major systematic, thought processes for success in my North Star Mental Fitness Program.

I urge you to read both of these posts by clicking on the above links.  If you find one or two ideas that can motivation for overcoming difficult times, your time to check out these links will be well worthwhile.

If you like more information regarding The North Star Mental Fitness Program or coaching for overcoming adversity, please e-mail me at drhal@northstarmentalfitnessblog.com.

 

Learning to think for success and overcome painful emotions is necessary for overcoming difficult times.  In this post I would like to have you consider 24 keys for overcoming difficult times.

The first nine keys were written by Alvin Soon and were entitled 9 Keys For Overcoming Difficult Times.  The next 15 keys were written by me and are the major systematic, thought processes for success in my North Star Mental Fitness Program.

I urge you to read both of these posts by clicking on the above links.  If you find one or two ideas that can motivation for overcoming difficult times, your time to check out these links will be well worthwhile.

If you like more information regarding The North Star Mental Fitness Program or coaching for overcoming adversity, please e-mail me at drhal@northstarmentalfitnessblog.com.