Divorce is inevitable, when people do not expect, identify, accept and recognize emptiness and signals of emptiness in themselves or their partners. Dysfunctional relationships are also the results of people's failure to understand emptiness and signals of emptiness.
You may expect and accept your car to approach empty on a regular basis. However, if you fail to recognize the message given to you by the gas gage, you are destined to sit at the side of the road. Failure to recognize signals of emptiness and emptiness is the prescription for prolonged emptiness and eventual failure.
With cars, it is easy to recognize the signal, because we only have one place to look in order to find the signal. Since humans have enumerable signals of emptiness, it is more difficult to recognize your significant other's signals.
Sometimes the signals will be thoughts (I think our relationship sucks) or feelings (you don't love me anymore). Sometimes the signals will be seen in behavior (dirty looks or slamming doors) or in your relationship (arguing and avoiding each other). Sometimes the signals of emptiness will be seen in activities (affairs, irresponsible spending and engaging in self-defeating behaviors).
It is necessary to recognize signals of emptiness when they occur. It is important to interpret and understand our partner's signals of emptiness are not weaknesses, criticisms or attempts to control us.
It is very important for us to recognize when our partners have wants, needs or desires to fulfill themselves. If we want satisfying and satisfactory interpersonal relationships with our significant others, it is important to recognize their individuality without feeling rejected or ignored.
By accepting and recognizing your significant other's signals of emptiness as only signals of emptiness, you can have an inner peace in stead of emotional pain and your significant others will realize that you are there for them.
Live in the now! Let us recognize when we are empty and our significant others are empty. If we do not recognize emptiness and signals of emptiness in ourselves and our significant others, we are destined to have dysfunctional relationships, emotional detachment and divorce.
Dr. Hal
Life and Mental Fitness Coach
The other posts in regard to emptiness and signals of emptiness are:

Recent Comments