North Star Mental Fitness Blog

MALE RULES

Male rules?  What are male rules? 

I found this article explaining male rules in a local newspaper dedicated to humor.  I found the rules to be humorous.  Then it hit me.  Some of these rules, if not most of the rules, probably are operating in the minds of men and create never-ending pain in relationship with women.

With a smile on my face, I hope you will enjoy MALE RULES, which are quoted as written in The Good Life..

The Power of Acceptance

There is power in acceptance! 

Tiger Woods: Addiction And Mental Fitness

This last week Tiger Woods made his public apology regarding his sexual infidelities or sexual addiction. 

Debate has raged over whether he has a sexual addiction or

My Valentine

Today is Valentine's Day.  A special day to refresh our minds regarding how important our valentines are to us.  A special day to clear out the garbage that spoils are perceptions, thoughts, feelings and actions towards those we love.

Our Super Bowl & Our Time for a Revolution

Today is Super Bowl Sunday.  Millions of Americans will be riveted in front of their TVs as they watch the New Orleans Saints battle the Indianapolis Colts.

Today I also woke up to an article about Sarah Palin, who delivered a speech last night and claimed that "America is ready for a another revolution".

As I thought about these two epic events,

We Are Proud Americans

We are proud Americans!  We are proud to be Americans!  We are not ashamed of our country!  We cherish and value our constitution, democratic heritage, values and country.  We are proud of the American people, who have actively expressed ourselves throughout the last few years. 

Our courageous determination to confront our government regarding the government's insensitivity to the interests of the American public was recognized by Scott Brown.  Scott Brown is not the hero, although he must be recognized for his willingness to listen and represent the American public.  This is what we want in our elected officials.

The hero is the American public.  We focused, we have acted and we are celebrating our successes!  We are taking back our power!  We are not blindly dependent upon our elected officials anymore.  No longer can we assume that our representatives are doing what is best for America and the American public. 

We are accountable for whom we elect.  We will hold those whom we elect accountable for representing us.  We now know that we have to be on guard, aware, critically evaluating, and actively communicating our beliefs and opinions to those who are elected to represent us and govern us.

We are willing to do whatever is necessary as American people in order to ensure that the American public is represented in Congress, governmental agencies and the White House.  We understand that we can no longer be complacent.

We must be willing to continue the fight until we get rid of all of the representatives, policies and governmental decisions that defiantly reject the will of the people.  We must continue the fight to be Americans and reject the arrogant who believe we are not smart enough to know what we want and, therefore, want to tell us what is best for us.

Michelle Obama has been criticized for her statement for the first time in my adult life I am proud of my country because it feels like hope is finally making a comeback".  She was criticized for saying that it was the "first time" she was proud of her country.  I disagree with her "first time" statement, but I agree with much of what she said .

Today, I agree with Michelle's statement "it feels like hope is finally making a comeback".  Michelle Obama also stated "People in this country are ready for change and hungry for a different kind of politics".  This statement is true today. 

The change we want is not a change in political party.  It is not a matter of Democrats versus Republicans.  We want our elected officials to continue to listen to us after they are like elected.  We want our opinions to be valued.  We want our elected officials to not violate the Constitution.  We want to be free!

Remember, We Live within the Government Created by Our Choices!

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach

Stress and Mental Fitness Training

The reality of stress can not be dismissed or minimized.  We are living in a world

15 TOOLS FOR SUCCESS IN 2010

SUCCESS = TAKING GOOD CARE OF YOU

If you take good care of you in 2010, you will be successful!  The following 15 tools will help you be successful in any situation in 2010.  These 15 tools provide the resources to guide you through 2010.

 

THE 15 MENTAL FITNESS TOOLS FOR SUCCESS IN 2010

Living New Year's Resolutions

As we approach the beginning of another New Year, you can turn New Year's Resolutions into Successes with a mental fitness procedure. 

Most people fail in keeping their resolutions because of lack of focus, weak commitment and insufficient will power. 

Successfully, reach your New Year's goals by using The Power Choice from the North Star Mental Fitness Program.  You do not need will power to be successful.

From a mental fitness perspective, there are three necessary steps for success.  

She Said Feeling Good Is Dangerous!

Have you ever wondered what the relationship is between anxiety and feeling good?  Most anxious people have discovered that anxiety destroys feeling good.  People suffering from anxiety worry about insignificant as well as significant issues.  They worry about past, present and future issues.

There are many forms of anxiety.  For some people anxiety takes the form of physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach aches and other symptoms consistent with any medical diagnosis.  For some people anxiety prevents them from being alone or leaving their home.  Others have social anxiety.  There is no doubt that anxiety destroys feeling good.

Let's look at something that is not so obvious.  For some people feeling good creates anxiety.

I talked to a young woman who has been devastated by anxiety.  She is getting better.  As she talked, she surprised herself as she verbalized a previously hidden key to understanding her anxiety.

Surprised she said "FEELING GOOD IS DANGEROUS"!

She has been unconsciously afraid to feel good.  Whenever she started to feel good, anxiety overwhelmed her.  She recalled childhood experiences of feeling good that were associated with guilt, shame and censure from adults.  Undoubtedly the association of feeling good with danger began in her childhood and this association has unconsciously, constantly been reinforced throughout her adult years.

Now she has an explanation for why she was unable to finish relational, educational and vocational pursuits after she began to feel good about her achievements.

I have also recently been talking to a man who also is consciously aware that FEELING GOOD IS DANGEROUS.  He has had many physical problems that have curtailed his activities.  He is fearful that over- exerting himself will be dangerous to his health.  There are many reasons why people with anxiety may unconsciously or consciously think that feeling good is dangerous.

It is important to confront the automatic negative thought that FEELING GOOD IS DANGEROUS.  If feeling good is not dangerous, then consciously re-program your mind to think that FEELING IS NOT DANGEROUS!

Remember, We Live with the Environment Created by Our Choices!

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach