How Many Successes Do You Need Before You Can Conclude You Are Successful

Recently I talked to a middle-aged woman, who was asked to take a position in a large business.  In order to take this advancement, she had to go way beyond her comfort zone.  A hard-working woman with limited work experience, she openly questioned her ability to succeed.

Every day she did the best she could.  At first she was really overwhelmed, but she still applied herself.  She succeeded on a daily basis for over a year.  She was shocked, when she was asked to take a position with even more responsibility.

She once again agreed to take the new position and hoped that she could be successful.  She has now had two years of successes.  She has had over 730 days of successes.

I think she was shocked when I asked her if she considered herself to be successful.  I don't believe she had ever concluded that "I am a success".

She has been able to perform the responsibilities of her job for over two years.  Yet, she still has not concluded Yes, I Can".  She has not concluded that she is successful.  She has not concluded that she has a successful identity which she will take with her no matter where she goes.

When she recovered from my question, I explain to her what I meant.  I pointed out that she had over 730 concrete days of successful experiences.  Basically, each day was very successful.  I pointed out that she could continue for another year or two discovering that she was successful.

Because she had had so many successes, I encouraged her to think abstractly and conclude that she is a Success.  Once she has made this conclusion, her identity will change.  She will think of herself as a success.  Her comfort zone will expand and include her perception of herself as successful.  She will continue to have more peace of mind and confidence as she will approach the uncertainties of life with a successful  perception of herself.  No matter what what challenges she faces, she will know "Yes, I Can".

How many successes will you need to have before you can conclude you are a success?  From a mental fitness perspective, it is very important to repetitively think of ourselves as a success and approach life with the attitude "Yes, I Can".

Remember, We Live within the Environment Created by Our Choices!

Dr. Hal

Live and Mental Fitness Coach

Comments

[Lexi of Creative Energies]

Being born itself is an incredible success, so we are all successes from the get go. I forget the statistics, but the odds against one sperm and one egg getting together are simply enormous.

Keeping that in mind really helps...