Finding the Right Question

From a mental fitness perspective it is important to find the the right way to think to make yourself stronger and satisfied with your life.  So often we become obsessed with finding the right solutions to solve our problems in our relationships.

Rowan has a site called: Rowan's Future of Choice -Practical decision-making for complex business problems.  He presented a very interesting quote from from a proponent of the Socratic Method, Peter Drucker: 

"The most common source of mistakes in management decisions is the emphasis on finding the right answer rather than the right question."

Rowan reported that in the business world, business leaders like to build consensus on the following questions:

• How do we beat the competition?
• How do we build a better mouse trap?
• What will it take to become more efficient?

After reading this article, I wondered if if also applies to relationships with our significant others, parents and children.

Don't we in our family life, like to find consensus on the following questions:

• How can we have better relationships than our friends?
• How do we build better relationships?
• What will it take to become more efficient in solving our problems?

Is it safe to conclude that:  "The most common source of mistakes in family decisions is the emphasis on finding the right answer rather than the right question."

What are the right questions for you to ask those you love?   What are right questions to ask yourself?  What are the right questions to ask about your lifestyle?

Are you living within the wrong environment, because of not asking the right questions?

Remember, You Live Within the Environment Created by Your Choices!

Dr. Hal

For more tips on mental fitness, you can subscribe to the North Star Institute News Letter at http://www.northstarmentalfitness.com/services.asp.  Dr. Hal Sommerschield is a clinical psychologist who coaches families from a mental fitness rather than from a mental illness perspective.  To learn more about coaching from a mental fitness perspective go to http://www.northstarmentalfitness.com/serviceDetail.asp?ID=17.

Comments

[Dick Rowan]

Dr. Hal. Thanks for commenting on my post. I think that better questioning would help with family fitness.

[Dave Schoof]

I think you are so right. I think back to times I wanted to change something and was stuck - I couldn't find the first step. The breakthrough always came from finding a new question that changed how I looked at the situation and gave me access to a new path forward.