We are a Team

Mentally fit athletes become team players.  Professional sports are full of athletes with unbelievable skills and abilities.  Natural ability and skills of star players are not sufficient for becoming champions in team sports.

Blending the unique skills and abilities of athletes into a team creates champions.

I have defined team cohesion as "a group sticking together and remaining united in good and bad times while pursuing their goals".

Good teams rally together when times are rough, while bad teams fall apart.

In my practice I worked with many couples and families.  I have been amazed that the concept of a "team" seems so foreign to some couples and some families.

I've seen arguing and disagreements push people further and further apart.  I've seen and felt their emotional pain and isolation.  When times are bad, some couples and families fall apart.

I've wondered why don't we think of our marriage or relationship as a team?  Why don't we think of our family as a team?

Out of despair I've made an analogy.  I mean no disrespect to people with Alzheimer's disease.  I believe as a result of poor listening and unbridled emotions, sometimes husbands and wives act like they have Alzheimer's disease.  I've noticed the same thing in dysfunctional families.  Sometimes Alzheimer's disease appears rampant.

What I mean, is people forget to whom they are talking and relating.  Too often husbands and wives forget they are talking to the one they love.  Too often parents and children forget they are talking to people they love. 

Too often people forget that they are on the same team.  Too often we look at family members as being on the other side.

Today, I hope you will remember your spouse and family are on your team.  Today, be a team member.

Remember, You Live within the Environment Created by Your Choices! 

Dr. Hal

Life and Mental Fitness Coach

Comments

[Sherry Airgood]

This really hits home with me Dr. Hal!! I know that it is important for couples/famlies to stick together and be there for each other, to suport each other in good times and bad. Especially bad, for this is when one may need a team player the most. It's a balancing act, one picks up the slack or whatever when the other can't. Team playing can affects many area's in day to day living. And, all of us will need a good team player at times, it show kindness and respect for anothers needs...

Thanks Dr. Hal!! I love reading your stuff

Sherry

[Karen Lynch]

Hi Dr. Hal,
I saw this post on the Carnival of Family Life and it was the first one I read!
I'm blessed to be part of a great family team now.
Thanks for your insights. I always enjoy your blog!
Karen

[Lisa]

Being part of a good team both at work and at home can really make all the difference. I am lucky to have a great family team. Life is so much easier when tackled as a team.

Here via the carnival of family life.